The Why and Wherefore

I have to admit, I never thought I would see the day when gay marriage was legal in Iowa before it was legal in California.

I am simultaneously pleased and embarrassed.

My favorite line from the LA Times article:

According to the Des Moines Register article linked above, Iowa requires more than the momentary populist backlash [emphasis mine] needed in California to put a law beyond judicial review by passing a constitutional amendment.

It reminds me of an article written by a famous architectural critic about the building of the de Young in San Francisco. The comment was about SF politics, but applies in these circumstances as well – he described the process as one that values pique over all other forms of input.

Democracy, mob rule. Have we lost the distinction here?

All you impending brides out there (and no, I’m not sure if a bride can be “impending,” but I like the way it sounds), listen up. Learn from my mistakes, grasshopper. Don’t just choose the first wedding website you find because it’s big and well-known, and then get stuck with its incredibly sub-par planning and management tools. And by ‘get stuck,’ I mean, ‘send everyone there to RSVP, so you can’t move your page.’

Reasons to avoid Read the rest of this entry »

Yes, it’s the first week of spring, but I’ll tell you what really makes me feel refreshed and renewed:

A little reminder that the good guys are in charge now.

I know the economy hasn’t exactly climbed out of its hidey-hole, but this kind of thing sure puts a spring in my step.


So what, now I’m supposed to go out on Friday nights now, or something?

Well, maybe not just yet.

Yes, I have been in a wedding- and work-induced hibernation for nearly two months. But boy do I fit into that dress. (So far.)

And what could nudge me back to the surface better than the best interview Jon Stewart has ever done?

Now, I have worshiped at the TDS altar ever since Indecision 2000, waaay back in the day. I have been mightily impressed with Jon & Co. for many years; I particularly remember an excellent interview in which he handed John Bolton his ass.

Last night, however, I feel that the man stepped into Mike Wallace territory. If you haven’t enjoyed already, please do so.

Eight years ago, I was already twitchy in my first job out of college, and was waiting to hear back from Georgetown about grad school. I’d gotten so caught up in the hideous aftermath of the 2000 elections that I thought DC would be a great place for a burgeoning political junkie like myself, even if I had to put up with a moron in office. Read the rest of this entry »

So who needs blogging when you’re spending two weeks digesting the Christmas ham?

Today, however, I’ve been pulled out of my ham-, wedding- and work-induced zombie state to bring you this valuable public service announcement instruction.

Go here.

Vote for this. Read the rest of this entry »


Boy, November seems to have gotten away from me. Up to my ears in a new job and a freelance job on the side, plus packing up the apartment for a temporary move and, you know, that whole wedding planning nonsense. But despite my despondency regarding Prop 8, it seems the holiday season has started early this year (and I don’t just mean the ads). We’ve got all kinds of shiny under the tree already! Read the rest of this entry »

On a day when even states like Virginia and Florida turned their backs on bigotry and prejudice, California has kept it alive and well with the passage of Proposition 8 (nearly assured at this point, with 95% of precincts reporting). Discrimination against gays and lesbians will now be written into the state constitution.

On a day when I should be rejoicing, or at least more cheerfully nursing my hangover, I am so ashamed of my state. I’m ashamed of the 52% of the CA population who clearly have no shame themselves, sucking up out-of-state Mormon propaganda and imposing their hateful beliefs on the civil rights of an entire state. Read the rest of this entry »

I live in California, and I’m getting married next year. My fiance is a man. So, this is not a problem, regardless of what happens on Nov. 4.

But for lots of my friends, colleagues and fellow citizens, the turnout of religious fundamentalists to vote against equality could doom their chances of getting legally married in their home state. Read the rest of this entry »